The modern-day concept that one needs to find a career or start a new business in order to “live with purpose” is rapidly becoming the norm.
In today’s unfulfilled and busy society, it is a common belief that if you’re not changing the world and living your passion every single day like Oprah, then you’re just not living a good-enough life.
This mind frame can be very damaging, because for many, our earthing-shattering lightbulb purpose, is not known. It’s elusive. Hidden. Somewhere so far inside our soul we haven’t ‘found’ it yet.
If that is the case, if we don’t know what our purpose is, then what? We should forget about living all together and crawl under a rock as our life is pretty much over?
That’s a scary thought.
I recently heard Women’s Leadership Coach, Writer and Speaker Megan Della-Camina say in an interview, “Don’t judge your insides with someone else’s outsides.”
I love this phrase, because when we start to connect with the feelings of not being fulfilled by our work or lifestyle anymore, it’s very easy to get hung-up on what other’s are saying about how their life changed seemingly overnight and now they work in a field of wildflowers everyday and dance with Unicorns while getting paid a ga-zillion dollars!
But, I’m here to tell you a big secret. Are you ready?
The secret no-one is sharing with you, is you don’t need to leave your job to find your purpose. Your purpose is what you need to do and want to do every day.
That’s it! You don’t have to sell your house, to move to Nepal and work with orphaned children to have meaning in your life. Obviously if you want to do that, then you can and good luck to you, but my point is, your purpose comes from your everyday intentions.
How do you want to show up in your life? How do you want to feel today? How do you want to help others? What do you want to make room for in your life? What do you want/need to let go of?
If you consider your job as just one element of a bigger lifestyle, instead of the be-all and end-all of your existence, then you will inevitably and subconsciously make space for what you want more of out of life.
For example, when I was on maternity leave with my first child in 2011, I used the time he was asleep during the day to create a blog and write about my experiences as a new Mum. I’d always been drawn to writing and loved the creative freedom a blog provided.
Four years ago, I never had the intention of resigning from my gig as a PR Manager to write full-time, but the joy I felt as a result of writing helped me connect with my passion among the day-to-day nappy changes, endless breast feeding and bad TV.
Each day I would show up at my laptop and think, ‘Today my intention is to connect with other stay-at-home Mums and show them solidarity as incredible women doing our best in this new role.”
As a result, fast forward a few years, and this experience sparked a deeper desire in me to broaden my writing experience, discover the online world of magazines, blogs and women in business that was very foreign to me back then.
I started to ask myself bigger questions, such as ‘what do I want my life to look like?’ and ‘how do I want to show up everyday for my life, my family, my friends and myself?’
I know now, the opportunity to write for an hour each day (depending on my son’s ability to sleep) opened parts of me I’d previously not been aware of, and little by little, a new way of life started emerging before me that felt right.
Over time, I found more confidence in my ability to say ‘No’ to things that didn’t fit my bigger picture.
Two years after returning to work, I signed up to an on-line business course and would study on the weekend in an effort to transition from one career to another.
I got involved in networking groups and started following women I admired online for a regular hit of inspiration to stay focused on the bigger picture – something I still do everyday.
It may appear to onlookers that I just packed up my city desk and started a new online business, but the truth is Woman Rising has been at least 3 years in the making and several wrong-starts to get to this point.
I still work part-time and juggle a business with Motherhood, but I look back and realise those mini-milestones I accomplished over the years was just me doing what I loved doing. Leaving my job wasn’t the first step to ‘finding my purpose’, it was the last piece of the puzzle that fell in to place once a lifestyle I desired was created.
Is Woman Rising my life’s purpose?
Maybe. Maybe not. But today it’s the medium I use to fulfil my purpose which is to inspire, support and celebrate working Mums and women in business.
Because I thrive on the knowledge that I’m helping others find their way, build their own path and achieve a sense of fulfilment previously elusive to them too.
That’s my passion and I don’t need to sell everything I own and move to another country to save the world or have a ‘meaningful’ life. I’ll leave space for someone else to accomplish that.
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