Hands up if you’ve ever think to yourself, ‘I really need to find more balance.’
Perhaps you’ve said, ‘I don’t have time to find balance.’
As someone who didn’t understand the word balance for many years – thanks to an internal desire to ‘get to the top’ – I’ve come to learn as a Life Coach, Mother of two and a business owner, while a majority of us seek balance, we wait for another day to make it happen, because there is too many important things to do first.
Unfortunately balance isn’t something we can easily buy from the local store when we need it.
Balance is the result of choices we make every day.
That’s right. It’s a choice. And more often than not, we make the choice to find balance when we have more time and energy to create changes in our life to make room for it.
How counter-productive is that?
If you’re struggling to find balance, here are five steps every woman can take – no matter where you’re starting from – to help you get more balance in to your busy life:
1. Don’t Wait For Permission
Some of the greatest women in history who we’ve long admired for their strength and ability to go against the pack despite all logic and expectations, did not request permission. Why should you?
You have a strength, power and the basic human right to live the life you want and if that means deciding to take back the reigns and put one foot in front of the other to build the path you truly desire, then do it, because I hate to say it, but no-one will give you permission, if you don’t grant it for yourself.
2. Paint A Picture Of A Balanced Life
What is your grand vision? What does your idea of balance look like?
Take a few moments, before bed or while you have a minute in the shower, and think about what it would mean to have balance. How do you define it and how would life be different? How would you feel when you live a more balanced lifestyle?
How will you know you have achieved balance if you don’t know what is you’re looking for?
3. Put Yourself First
I know this can be very tricky for those of us who feel they are responsible (aka the world would fall apart if we don’t hold the fort) for others – partners, children, parents, friends, colleagues, staff etc… but balance can only be genuinely achieved when you consciously make the decision to put yourself first for a change – whatever that means to you.
What does putting yourself look like? Is it leaving work early, asking someone else to cook dinner, saying ‘no’ to others, or perhaps it’s as simple as allowing yourself to put your feet up for an hour during the day instead of doing another load of washing, answering emails or some other chore that can wait.
4. Behave Your Way To Balance
When I first decided I was going to create The Woman Rising Network I knew it would be a huge undertaking for me on top of everything else.
While I so passionately wanted to establish this new arm of Woman Rising, I knew I couldn’t achieve it under duress. I needed to behave my way to balance in order to accomplish my goal.
Each day I needed to think about how to best use my time to still achieve all I wanted. Would forcing myself to write content, record interviews and build a website every spare minute I had be the most productive use of my time or would it just be a fast track to stress, anxiety, exhaustion and burn out?
If I was serious about building a new section of my business, then I needed to start behaving as if I already had the balance I was seeking, thus making it real.
As Dr Phil says, ‘Behave your way to success.’
It doesn’t matter how much you want balance in your life, if you don’t carve out time, listen to your body and put yourself first to create balance, it will only ever remain a desirable concept.
5. Don’t Apologise
If creating change in your life upsets others, don’t apologise. You should never be sorry for building a heart-driven path.
Saying sorry is one fast way to lose your power and let go of any real progress you’ve made towards finding balance.
Besides, you should never feel like you need to apologise for being who you really are – a woman who deserves a life created by design not default.
I’d love to know, what small change can you make today to help get more balance in your life? Which step resonated with you?
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Until next week