Have you seen the Facebook meme going around about feeling lost during the days between Christmas and New Year? I’m right there!
I know, I ‘should’ be taking time off to rest and reenergise, but when my mind is still I find it’s at its most creative and these days in between are ideal for getting clear on what the next year will entail.
In my last official blog post for the business year, I revealed some of the highs and lows I faced in 2016.
It was definitely a year when many habits and patterns of behaviour revealed themselves to be less than relevant, unsuitable and no longer important.
In hindsight, I can see many things in my personal and professional life were either crumbling or not taking flight the way I’d hoped for, to make me pay attention to what was in front of me and inside my heart.
My youngest son became very ill and I was forced to keep still for four days in hospital, nursing my boy back to health.
A big beautiful new membership model, which spent months to build and a small fortune to create, fell over after three months. I thought it would set the world on fire. I was devastated, but not surprised.
It seemed the more I forced things to happen harder, better, stronger, faster (aka ‘I want it all now!’) I couldn’t see the wood for the trees.
Each step I took from a place of ego and perceived business savvy, were leading me further and further away from my purpose and heart-driven passions.
That is, the more I pushed and forced things to happen at either home or at work, the more they revolted against me.
Yes, I’m a huge advocate of making things happen and strongly believe in our ability to cultivate our best life from where we are, but at what cost your family, your heart, and your soul’s happiness?
Is the desire for bigger, better, brighter, bolder yours or someone else’s?
Is the path you’re actively pursuing aligned with your greater purpose or one you think you should follow because it has more financial security, looks good on the resume or simply what you’ve always done?
A friend of mine revealed in a conversation last week that her life only started to flow when she let go of expectations and trusted the Universe would have her back and show her the right way to go.
Everything she knew was good and true before that point had crumbled (work, relationship, house etc…) and she needed to rebuild. But instead of falling victim to a ‘woe is me’ mindset, she embraced the unknown and opened her arms to the world and declared, ‘I’m ready. Show me what you’ve got planned for me.’
Her willingness to ride unchartered waters was her saving grace and it led her directly to the arms of her husband, a young family, new home and passion-fuelled career. Everything she’d always wanted but somehow couldn’t manage to find before.
My friend is an inspiration and incredible example of letting go of what no longer serves you to be open to what is truly meant to be.
With that in mind, I want to get clear about my intentions for the road ahead.
I want to cultivate 2017 with intention and purpose.
I want to connect with my heart and lean in to it unapologetically and speak my truth.
I want to take steps along the path of freedom.
Free of the shoulda-woulda-couldas and the limiting perception that I need to get-it-right-the-first-time-or-don’t-do-it-at-all which keeps me stuck, stagnant and lacking any real fulfilment.
Above all else, my heart yearns to be free of the very real fear of rejection that has controlled it for more than 20 years.
So I here I stand to publicly declare that in a year from now I want to be able to say, I stepped up and followed the calling of my heart, because this life I’m in now deserves nothing less.
It may not bring endless rainbows, an Oprah Winfrey style bank balance or even one night of 12 hours uninterrupted sleep (hello children!) but at the end of the day, neigh year, I will proudly place my hand on my heart and know that I took a chance and did my best according to my heart’s values, and that’s something I will never regret.
Besides, who said, we need to figure out all of life in one year anyway? As Tony Robbins says, “people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in 2 or 3 decades.”
Ready to set your intentions for the weeks, months and year ahead?
Download the free Intention Setting worksheet available here and leave a comment below this post to let me know what your intention is for 2017.