When you first start to acknowledge that you’re life is growing and evolving, when things just don’t fit they way they use to, and you’re ready to take intentional action to cultivate your best life, it’s important to have the right tools at your disposal to support you.
I’ve curated a list of recommended resources and tools that I’ve found to be very valuable during my own transitions, and continue to use them today.
Of course, not all items I’ve listed will resonate with you. You may use some more than others and that’s OK, but these are six essential items I recommend for every Woman Rising to use as she cultivates her best life for inspiration, encouragement, support and self-care.
Journaling is an incredibly powerful tool and vital in every Woman Rising’s self-care routine. If journaling is new to you, try to write for a few minutes every few days until you create a new habit and build up to approx. 20 minutes (or as long as you need to) every day. I like to write at the end of the day before bed to give thanks and dump all my worries on to the page, so it’s not in my head!
It should be noted you don’t have to go out and buy expensive hard cover note book to practice journaling. Any book with blank pages you’re comfortable to write in is enough. What’s important is the act of writing and allowing yourself to process the good times and the bad.
2. Oracle Cards
Reading Oracle Cards to connect with your Angels/Universe/Guides (whatever you believe in) has been a tradition for centuries and is one of the most common ways people gain a source of divine unquestionable advice and support. It’s akin to providing yourself a psychic reading whenever you need it.
You should work with Oracle Cards that resonate with you but my favourite cards, and the ones I use, are:
Meditation is a beautiful, natural and powerful way to reconnect with yourself, listen to your heart and disconnect from the constant noise and negativity we can all get caught up in. It’s also an excellent way to combat depression and stress.
There are many guided meditations you can download and save to your favourite device, but my favourite (for everyone from beginners to more advanced) is Headspace. It’s an app you can download for free and learn the art of meditation for 10 minutes each day for 10 days. The programs after that are paid for.
Learn more at Headspace.com
When you first start to cultivate your best life from the inside out you will come up against resistance, either from those around you or from inside you. So prepare your mind with positive and powerful affirmations, which allows you to control the conversation in your head and reconfirm your right to do what matters to you.
You can find thousands of positive affirmations on the Internet to write in your journal or on post-its around the house, or check out these gorgeous decks of self love cards I highly recommend:
5. Music & Dancing
Listening to music is good for the soul. It allows you to disconnect from troubles and transport your heart and soul to a happy place. I often use music in the car or around the house when my boys are very tired and grumpy because it brings joy and happiness back to the moment. We all dance around like big nerds and have lots of fun. Remember fun?
Songs on our dance party play list include:
- Justin Timberlake: I Can’t Stop The Feeling
- Pharrell Williams: Happy
- Black Eyed Peas: I’ve Gotta Feeling / Boom Boom Pow
- Kylie Minogue: Spinning Around
- Madonna: Music / Vogue / Holiday
- Coldplay: Clocks / God Put A Smile On Your Face
- Beyonce: Crazy In Love
- Pink: Raise Your Glass
- Jennifer Lopez: Dance Again
6. Vision Board
The inspirational power of a vision board is well documented – just look at the success of Pinterest! I created my first Vision Board many years ago when I desperately wanted to travel, start a business and create a more meaningful life.
I went through dozens of magazines (I kept copies of Marie Claire, Harper’s Bazaar and Vogue around for years as inspiration) and cut out any words or images that made my heart ignite. Even phrases such as ‘Watch Out World’ I’d rip from a headline to make it my own. These visual reminders were subtle nods to the life I wanted to cultivate and experience.
If you’ve never created a Vision Board, start with a private digital board on Pinterest and post everything you love and desire to it.
It doesn’t need to make sense to anyone but you. It could be patterns, drawings, favourite quotes or women who inspire you. Whatever resonates with you will work it’s magic, just remember to keep looking at it and amending it to suit you as you cultivate your best life.
Podcasts are all the rage for a very good reason – you can listen anywhere, anytime and hear interesting conversations among people about even the most random of subjects. If you love gardening, there will be a podcast on it. If you love cooking, reading, writing, dissecting the news – there will be someone, somewhere waxing lyrical about it on his or her podcast.
I would even go so far as to say that Podcasting is the new blogging – everyone has one and you can subscribe to as many as you like for regular information, inspiration and insights.
A few of my favourite podcasts include:
- Women, Leadership & Work Megan Dalla-Camina
- Happy Mama Amy Taylor-Kabbaz
- The Osher Gunsberg Show Osher Gunsberg
- I Don’t Know How She Does It Mamamia Podcast Network
8. Private Space / Self-Care Kit
As working Mums it’s easy to fall in to the habit of sacrificing what you need and want to ensure everyone around you is happy and cared for. But do you ever feel like escaping to your own space when things get a little too hectic?
Find a space in your house, garden, home office, bedroom or anywhere that you can declare your own private space. Fill it with some of your favourite possessions and special trinkets that warm your heart and make you happy. Then when you’re feeling exhausted or need to reconnect with yourself, sit in your space for as long as you can (from five minutes to 20 minutes if you have the time) and breathe.
I have what I call my ‘Self Care Kit’. It includes my journal, oracle cards, crystals, a candle (to place on the bedside table), books, feathers and a few of my favourite pics that bring a smile to my face. I keep all of this in a small tote bag and unpack it on to my bed whenever I need a little me-time.
When you’ve decided to take steps towards cultivating your best life, I’m guessing you’ll be hungry for as much juicy information and inspiration you can get your hands on. Books are definitely an easy and affordable option, plus they are a great way to cultivate more me-time in your day!
A few of my favourite books are:
- Playing Big – Tara Sophia Mohr
- Spirit Junkie – Gabrielle Bernstein
- Daring & Disruptive – Lisa Messenger
- Girlboss – Sophia Amoruso
- Grace Not Perfection – Emily Ley
- Big Magic – Elizabeth Gilbert
- Daring Greatly – Dr. Brene Brown
10. Support Network
Who better to understand everything you’re going through then another Mama-Bear who also feels tired, alone, exhausted and as if the weight of the world is on her shoulders as she tries to manage it all?
Give yourself permission to let down those walls by joining a local support network. You are not alone and deserve beautiful heart-driven friendships to help you get through this busy season of life.
There are usually a range of Mother groups across towns and cities already created and available on the Meet Up site. If you don’t find something that resonates with you, why not start your own?
Of course, you are more than welcome to come and join me and other women rising in our private online community where we chat, ask questions and generally hold space for each other to just be without judgement, comparison or negativity. Please come over and say Hi.
We’re open 24/7 so you can pop in whenever it suits you. We value truth, integrity, joy, happiness, love, and friendship. It’s completely free and you can chat in your PJs with a cuppa in hand while your babies are asleep or playing beside you.
Let me know in the comments below which items you have, would like to have or prefer using? I’m always eager to learn and add more resources to my tool kit, so I’d love to hear what works for you as you cultivate your best life.
*I am not an affiliate of any product or service listed.