In an Instagram post recently, I admitted that it felt like I’ve been hiding from life. Shying away from it, if you will.
Despite significant personal progress over the last few years, and my continued desire to learn how to cultivate my best life, there are some things I’m stumbling over.
For example, despite telling my partner I wanted to get back in to exercise again after the birth of our second son, I still haven’t laced up my sneakers for a quick walk around the block. He’ll turn one in two weeks!
It’s not that I hate walking – quite the opposite in fact – I love walk/running and used to run 5KMs at least twice a week. It was my zen.
But this year, it seems my best-laid plans aren’t enough to get me out of bed in the morning or motivated to turn off Netflix!
After my Insta-admission, I knew it was time to open my journal and discover why I was hiding from something I’d previously loved to do.
What was it inside I was holding on to and couldn’t let go of?
Now, before I dive in to the questions I asked myself to reveal my hidden answers, I should clarify this blog post is not a message to strive for perfection and force you out the door to do everything you’ve ever thought about doing…
It’s about being vulnerable with yourself. Asking yourself questions that help you stimulate a deeper level of growing and learning.
If you and I are both on this journey of cultivating our best life from the inside out, I believe that path should also feature opportunities to know our dark sides, as well as the light.
Because it’s from this place of understanding the sum of our parts, that we can start to truly heal and ultimately cultivate the best version of our life.
So, here is what I sat down and asked myself to get to know why I was adverse to starting a new routine and inadvertently hiding from my life (obviously, you can tweak the questions to suit your personal circumstances to reveal why you’re hiding):
- What are you waiting for? What’s the excuse?
- How does not going for a walk make me feel?
- What is the reward I believe I gain for not exercising?
- Is my mindset stuck on negativity towards exercise and/or my health?
- Where can I cut myself some slack? (Note: this is about the length of time I set to go for a walk to take smaller steps and get me moving.)
- Why is exercise and health important to me?
- How will I feel after I go for a walk?
- How will I feel in two weeks after I’ve taken a few walks?
- How do I want to feel overall?
- How can I use this experience to influence other areas of my life?
The game-changing question for me was definitely the last one. I realised, it’s not about the walking that has me stuck, it’s that I haven’t connected to HOW I want to feel after I achieve my goal of getting back in to exercise.
Once I decided that exercise was linked to my long-term goal of excellent physical and mental health, it propelled me to schedule time in my day to finally go for a walk. Which I did!!
In effect, it turned the chore of exercise in to an achievable step towards cultivating my best life.
What are you hiding from? Tell me in the comments below what you’d love to do but have avoided so far and how you think you might feel if you did achieve it.