This past week I celebrated my one-year anniversary of taking my first step out of my corporate comfort zone and on to a new path of being a Life Coach.
I was terrified. Was I doing the right thing? Would it be a waste of time? What if I failed? Should I be doing this at all? How will I manage with a family and a full time job? What will others think of me?
Doubts, fears and insecurities ran around and around in my head, but I knew something was calling me forward and I intuitively knew everything would be ok.
And it was. But one thing I didn’t do, was tell the world of my plans. The only people I divulged my secret to was my partner, closest friends and my parents.
I didn’t let on to my team at work that I was studying to change my life outside business hours or shout it loudly from the rooftops (aka announce it on Facebook), because I was afraid of the judgements that would fly my way.
Now looking back over this transition phase, I realise I was subconsciously detoxing my relationships in order to move from one life to another. I didn’t need any negative energy around me killing my motivation, so I actively chose to only share the news with those people who would be there for me, and not try and pull me down.
Research shows that during the course of our lives we spend most of our time with just five people. These influential and supportive peeps can be our key to happiness and inspiration to achieve our biz dreams.
But…what should you do when the people you spend time with make you feel small and silly when they find out you intend to follow your heart and professional passions?
1. First things first, get clear on who inspires you and supports your initiative to achieve great things.
2. Make a list of everyone you spend time with – family, friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, the coffee guy, a teacher at your child’s school, your boss etc… who ever crosses your path on a regular basis that impacts your personal vibe.
3. Do you stress or feel anxious about seeing any of these people or do you look forward to spending time with them? Against their names place a ‘+’ next to the positive people and a ‘-‘ beside the not-so-positive people. You probably already have an instinct on this anyway.
4. How can you manage these relationships moving forward as you create big changes in your life? Do you need to see them as often, talk to them or share as much of yourself?
5. Consider carefully how you can back yourself during this time and protect yourself from any uninvited and surprising horrid attacks. Perhaps keep a positive affirmation up your sleeve to help you stay on track such as, “I honour my ability to change and am open to the new”.
Overall, when we are consciously aware of who we should be spending time with, we will naturally start to drift towards them more and let go of all the rest.
Tell me in the comments below, have you had an experience with someone who couldn’t handle you changing? What did you do?