By Rose Ellis
Body image hasn’t always been my strong suit, it’s something I’ve always had to work on and once I had my twins it became a real struggle. The negative mindset that seemed to consume me in the early days really didn’t help my business either. You see, I’m a Health & Wellness Coach, I’ve worked hard to create a space of positivity – love and happiness where women feel empowered, motivated and inspired, to live a life completely fulfilled with who they are – but, then I found myself struggling to live in this space post-babies, and my business was suffering as a result. However, with a little effort (okay, a lot), good support around me and some personal development I turned it all around.
As with every life hurdle there are takeaways and lessons we can use in our business. Here are a few of mine:
- Stop comparing
It’s so easy to scroll social media and see everyone doing amazing things but we forget, this is a highlight real, often people aren’t posting about the failures they’ve had, the struggles they’ve been through to get to where they are and all the hardships they’ve had to endure. We see the final product of all their hard work and instantly do a mental stocktake of our own life to decide whether it’s better or worse. Why? We are all different and unique in our own way, so there really can be no comparison. You are on your own journey so keep the focus there.
2. It’s easy to do and easy not to do
Whether it’s a workout, the blog post that needs to be written, meal prep you have to do, or the cold calls you need to make, it just comes down to a simple choice: will I do it, or won’t I? If we take away the fluff and focus on what needs to happen it becomes quite simple. Don’t get me wrong, of course, on some days, it was easier to say no to the workout and to leave the to-do list closed on my desk, but what I found motivated me to get my act into gear was asking some simple questions: Would I rather do this workout or feel crappy about sitting on the couch? Would I rather email all my clients, or have to think about getting a proper job? When you make it simple the answer is easy to find, and the task becomes doable.
3. Find a support network
Having a cheer squad around you gets you out of the dark, difficult moments where you feel like you can’t go on. Find a Facebook group of like-minded women that will help drive you, create a Mastermind group where you can run your ideas past other women in business, brainstorm, mind map, create content in a group instead of on alone, follow positive role models on social media (remember not to compare!), get an accountability buddy, whatever it is for you, find a tribe that has your back and run WITH them.
4. Declare your goals
Keeping your goals a secret does you no favours – I’m not saying you need to shout your cash flow goals from the roof tops – but, it does help to share where you’re going with more people than just your doggy colleague! When we announce our goals they become real, people now know about them and it creates a sense of accountability within ourselves to keep pushing until we achieve it.
5. Be kind to yourself
Shockingly even amazing, badass business women are human! There will be days when you can’t be bothered, when you’ll make mistakes, when it feels like it’s all for nothing and you’ll never be a success but just remember, sometimes we need to go backwards to go forwards. Every challenge is a lesson so instead of beating yourself up, look at what you can learn from the experience and use it to propel you forward.
My final message, ladies, is:
Just do you.
Be who YOU are and focus on the message YOU are spreading because there are people out there waiting for exactly that.
This article was originally published in Woman Rising Issue 3: Your Savvy Start-Up. Read it here >